Hot Flashes and Holy Wisdom: Why Menopause Isn’t the End. It’s the Invitation

I didn’t know I was beginning menopause.

That may sound strange, considering I’ve guided people through spiritual initiations in temples, deserts, forests, and even on river rafts. I teach mystery school. I coach spiritual entrepreneurs. I live and breathe the sacred. And still…when my body started shapeshifting and my emotions began doing parkour off the walls of my psyche, I thought I might just need a nap.

I was 43, fresh from a late-in-life pregnancy, riding waves of sleep deprivation and “maybe-this-is-just-stress” when the deep alchemy of midlife tapped me on the shoulder. I ignored her until she grabbed me by the soul.

No one told me that menopause could start as insomnia, irritation, tearful moments over cereal choices, and a deep yearning to be alone and held at the same time. But it did. I felt like an alien had taken over my body.

Now, more than a decade beyond that transformative crucible, I see it clearly for what it was: not a breakdown, but a complete reformulation of my life.

Menopause isn’t the end. It’s a sacred threshold, a doorway into initiation that leads to deeper knowing, truer expression, and radiant sovereignty. It’s a fire that burns away falsehoods and leaves only what’s real. It’s the journey that allows the soul to step forward and say, “Now, it’s my turn.”

And yes, the symptoms can be disorienting. One moment you’re wise and grounded, the next you’re trying to remember if you fed the dog…or have a dog. But underneath it all is a profound metamorphosis. One that’s been hidden or dismissed in our culture for far too long.

I’m not putting down my other callings. I’m still teaching Mystery School. I’m still coaching visionary women and heart-led spiritual businesses. I’m still hosting ceremonies that help people cross thresholds of every kind. But this work -- this Sacred Menopause work -- is asking for my hands and heart in a new way. Because I’ve been through the fire. I know the terrain. And I know how to walk beside those on the dark path and shine a light on what’s really happening.

It’s time we stop treating menopause like a medical condition and start honoring it as a rite of passage.

It’s time we stop whispering about “the change” and start celebrating the woman who emerges from it.  A clearer, stronger, wilder, wiser woman.

So, here’s what I’m up to…

I’m building something bold. A gathering space, a book, an app, a circle of kindred souls. Tools and teachings, laughter and learning, grounded in the sacred and held with humor. Because we need spaces where women can tell the truth, fall apart safely, find their fire, and rise again.

This work isn’t about managing symptoms. It’s about claiming magic.

If you’re crying for no reason, tossing blankets off at midnight, questioning everything you thought you knew, or simply feeling something stirring in your bones that you can’t quite name (or if you know someone else who’s experiencing any of this)…come closer.

You’re not broken.

You’re becoming.

And I’m here to walk beside you, not as someone with all the answers, but as someone who’s danced through the flames and come out luminous on the other side.

Because menopause is not the end of your story.

It’s the chapter where the heroine becomes the sage.

And that, my love, is worth celebrating.

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